Results:
You selected in the questionnaire:
• I have difficulty reaching orgasm with a partner and do not masturbate

This statement indicates Orgasm Dysfunction Generalised meaning that the issue presents for you in general terms during intercourse and at this point it is unclear if it also presents during masturbation. The following areas are known contributors to either causing, from the beginning, and / or keep maintaining the dysfunction. You will need to carefully consider your answers and investigate further anything you feel may be an issue.

• Can you identify any issues with your current relationship / current partner that may be impacting on your sexuality?
• Think about anything significant that may have happened prior to the problem starting to occur. For example comments made by partners, a change in partner, a negative experience related to sex.
• What are your general thoughts about intercourse? Are there any feelings of shame or guilt?
• Have you experienced any previous sexual trauma?
• During intercourse do you feel any embarrassment, inhibition or anxiety?
• Do you feel like you may have difficulty with desire to have sex or difficulty getting aroused? The issue may be better treated as issues with sexual desire or arousal.
• Does it feel too hard work to orgasm during intercourse?
• Do you concentrate on trying to relax through intercourse? Tensing the physical body may be more helpful.
• Would you and your partner benefit from more education about sex
• Do you have a reasonable understanding of your own body and its sexual needs? If not, experimenting with masturbation may be helpful. It’s the easiest way to discover what your body requires in order to reach orgasm. You will be able to discover the amount of pressure you require, the speed, length of time of sense of touch required. You will then be able to communicate these needs to your partner.
• If you can achieve orgasm through masturbation this will also indicate that there is not physical issue driving the problem and will also help the body become accustomed to reaching orgasm.

• Do you have a reasonable understanding of your own body and its sexual needs?
• Can you communicate these needs to your partner?
• When you are engaging in sex with your partner, note what thoughts are going through your mind at the time. Are you focusing on other things rather than on the sexual moment?
• Is there any possibility you may be reaching orgasm but are unaware of it?

Once you have established the answers to these questions, it is likely you have uncovered the driver and / or what’s maintaining the issue. You will then need to address this in order to establish healthy sexual functioning.

Other options: Download the Discovery Workbook. The Discovery Workbook takes you on an investigative and reflective journey through potential issues that may be driving the problem. It’s an in-depth look at the issue including questions, activities, reflections and case studies that will assist you in uncovering the essence of the problem. $39.95. To purchase the Discovery Workbook.

Book a Telephone or Skype appointment with your Sex Therapist. Advise us of your preferred time and date and we will endeavour to meet your needs wherever possible. You will receive communication about your booking within 60 minutes. Telephone and Skype appointments are $120.00 for a 60 minute session and are done with maximum convenience to you, in the privacy of your own home or office.

Book a face-to-face Clinic Appointment with Terri OReilly. Clinic rooms are located on Wickham Terrace, Spring Hill. Sessions are 1 hour in duration and are $140.00 per session. Advise us of your preferred time and date and we will endeavour to meet your needs wherever possible. You will receive communication about your booking within 60 minutes.